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Etiquette Tips  

Q.      Dear Ms. Downing: 

I am not sure what to expect when I am invited for 'Cocktails,' versus a 'Cocktail Party,' versus a 'Cocktail Buffet,' versus a 'Cocktail Reception!!' It is all so confusing.  Are there differences? 

A.      Whether you are a young sophisticate, accompanied by a parent or a professional executive, sooner or later you will find yourself with an invitation to a cocktail party.  These affairs can range from small and rather simple to large and formal soirees. 

The goal should be to have an enjoyable time meeting people, possibly making new connections, and sharing stimulating conversation. If you have taken the time to learn and practice your social graces, and come prepared to enjoy yourself, you should leave the evening having made a positive impression.

The difference between an invitation to these various 'versions of the cocktail party' are typically the amount of food that is served, the dress attire and possibly the theme of the event.

Here are some definitions of what you can expect at each of these events.

Cocktails and Cocktail Party - As a guest you will find yourself standing while only beverage, or finger foods and beverage are served.  The attire can range from casual to business.

Cocktail Buffet - You will find small tables and chairs set up for the guests.  There will be a 'buffet station' where you will serve yourself and then be seated.  The dress is typically more formal, and the event can last from 2 to 3 hours.

Cocktail Reception - This is the most formal of the events.  Attire is dressy for women and usually black tie for men.  The reception may be held in honor of a distinguished guest or to celebrate a very special event, such as the grand opening of a new performing arts center.  There will be quite a lot of food, which will equate to that of a dinner, and Champagne will always be served.

If you have any other questions, or would like more information about attending a class in protocol, proper dining, social education and etiquette, we would love to hear from you! 

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